Do not pray against your children
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) forbade praying against one’s children, one’s wealth and one’s own self, lest that be at a time when the du’aa is answered. He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth, lest that coincides with a time when Allah is asked and He gives, so He answers your prayer.”
Children are one of the blessings of this worldly life, as Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world” [Al-Kahf 18:46]
They are the apple of their parent’s eye, the joy of their hearts, so how can they pray against them?
The parent’s du’aa’ for or against their child is answered (as we disused in our previous Hadith).
A mistake that is made by many fathers and mothers is that they pray against their children if the latter do something that makes them angry. What they should do is pray for them to be guided and for Allah to set their affairs straight. By His mercy, Allah does not answer the du’aa’ of parents against their children if it is at a time of anger, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And were Allah to hasten for mankind the evil (they invoke for themselves and for their children, while in a state of anger) as He hastens for them the good (they invoke) then they would have been ruined. So We leave those who expect not their Meeting with Us, in their trespasses, wandering blindly in distraction” [Yoonus 10:11]
Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy upon him) said in his Tafseer: Here Allah tells us of His forbearance and kindness towards His slaves, for He does not answer them when they pray against themselves or their wealth or their children at moments of anger. He knows that they do not really mean any ill, so He does not answer them out of kindness and mercy, as He does when they pray for themselves or their wealth or their children for goodness, blessing and growth.
And Allah Knows Best!