Who deserves the best treatment?

Abu Hurayrah (radi Allahu anhu) narrated: A man came to  Allah’s Messenger (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) and said, “O Allah’s Messenger! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man said, “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man asked (for the fourth time), “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your father.”

[Sahih Bukhari]

Commentary:

The Scholars (may Allah have mercy on them) said that the reason for the mothers preference over anyone else is because she is the one who struggled and sacrificed most in the raising of her child by:

1. Firstly carrying her child through the pregnancy stage

2. Then delivery

3. Then the breastfeeding stage

The above three stages are specific to the mother and are therefore the main reasons the mother is given preference over the father.

Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination. [Luqman 31: 14]

4. And then serving and looking after her child until the child becomes older (this responsibility is shared with the father of the child).

The above Hadith also shows us the eagerness of the Sahaba (companions) of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) in wanting to know what is most beneficial.

And Allah knows best!

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