You and your wealth belong to your father
Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allah (radi Allahu anhu) said that a man said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have wealth and children, and my father wants to take all my wealth [to spend it on his own needs] and leave nothing.” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “You and your wealth belong to your father.”
[Sunan Ibn Maajah - In al-Zawaa’id it says: its Isnaad is Sahih and its men are Thiqaat according to the conditions of al-Bukhari]
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said in his book al-Mughni, commenting on this matter:
Any father has the right to take whatever he wants of his son’s wealth and to take possession of it, whether the father needs it or not, and whether the son is an adult or a child, provided two conditions are met:
- The first is that this should not be unfair to the son or cause him any harm, and that the father should not take anything that the son needs.
- The second is that he should not take from the wealth of one child to give it to another child. This is what was stated by Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him). This is because it is prohibited for a father to show favouritism in giving to one child from his own wealth, so the prohibition should apply even more to the case of a father taking from one child to give to another.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem ibn ‘Abd al-Lateef Aal al-Shaykh (may Allah have mercy on him) said the following regarding this issue:
A father is permitted to take from his son’s wealth, because of the sayings of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam): “You and your wealth belong to your father” [Reported by the five and classed as saheeh by al-Tirmidhi]
And: “The best of what you consume is what you earn, and your children are part of your earnings” [Reported by al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaa'i and Ibn Maajah from ‘Aa’ishah]
The father’s taking from his son’s earnings is subject to six conditions:
- He should not take what his child needs or the loss of which would cause harm to his child.
- He should not give it to another of his children.
- He should not take anything when either of them is on his deathbed.
- The father should not be a Kaafir (non-muslim) when the son is a Muslim.
- The wealth should exist in a tangible form.
- Whatever the father takes from his son becomes his when he takes it with the appropriate intention or a spoken statement.
And Allah Knows Best!