Being compassionate to others
Usamah bin Zaid (radi Allahu anhum) narrated that The daughter of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) sent for him as her child was dying, but the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) returned the messenger and sent her good wishes saying, “Whatever Allah takes away or gives, belongs to Him, and everything with Him has a limited fixed term (in this world), and so she should be patient and anticipate Allah’s reward.” She again sent for him adjuring him for the sake of Allah to come. The Messenger of Allah, accompanied with Sa’d bin ‘Ubadah, Mu’adh bin Jabal, Ubayy bin Ka’b, Zaid bin Thabit and some other men went to see her. The child was lifted up to the Messenger of Allah while his breath was disturbed in his chest. On seeing that, the eyes of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) streamed with tears. Sa’d said, “O Messenger of Allah! What is this?” He replied, “It is compassion which Allah has placed in the hearts of His slaves, Allah is Compassionate only to those among His slaves who are compassionate (to others).”
Another version says: The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Allah shows compassion only to those among His slaves who are compassionate.”
[Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
1. Gathering of all the relatives is not necessary at the time of someone’s death. However, their participation in the funeral prayer is Mustahab Fard Kifayah (a desirable collective duty upon all Muslims; but which is sufficient or equivalent to all having performed it if it is performed by only some of them).
2. The desire of the relatives that at the time of someone’s death some pious people should be present is quite genuine so that the agonizing process of death is made easy by their prayers.
3. It is lawful that a trustworthy person is made to take an oath and it is essential for the trustee to fulfill it as it increases the mutual trust and love.
4. To shed tears on someone’s death, and to advice the relatives of the deceased for patience and accountability are permissible acts.
5. Expression of kindness and love is a gift from Allah and means to gain His Compassion, while deprivation from it is callousness.
And Allah Knows Best!