Expressing grief and sadness
Anas (radi Allahu anhu) reported: When the last illness of the Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) made him unconscious, Fatimah (radi Allahu anha) exclaimed: “Ah, the distress of my dear father.” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “There will be no distress for your father after today”. When he died she said: “My father, Allah has called you back and you have responded to His Call. O father! Garden of Firdaus is your abode. O father! We announce to Jibril your death.” When he was buried, she said: “Are you satisfied now that you put earth over (the grave of) the Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam)?”
This Hadith shows that it is permissible to express the trouble and restlessness which one feels at the time of death. Similarly, expression of pain and grief in a natural way in the event of someone’s death is also permissible. To remember the virtues of the deceased is also permitted but it is to be free from wailing and moaning, lamentation and crying, and tearing off clothes, etc. The last words of Fatimah (radi Allahu anha) are also a way of expressing grief and sadness and not a criticism on the burial of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) because such criticism is prohibited by Shari’ah and no one is exempted from it.
And Allah Knows Best!