Treat Women Kindly

‘Amr bin Al-Ahwas Al-Jushami (radi Allahu anhu) reported that he had heard the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) saying on his Farewell Pilgrimage, after praising and glorifying Allah and admonishing people, “Treat women kindly, they are like captives in your hands; you do not owe anything else from them. In case they are guilty of open indecency, then do not share their beds and beat them lightly but if they return to obedience, do not have recourse to anything else against them. You have rights over your wives and they have their rights over you. Your right is that they shall not permit anyone you dislike to enter your home, and their right is that you should treat them well in the matter of food and clothing.”

[At-Tirmidhi]

Commentary:

We learn a few lessons from this hadith:

  1. Here we find justification for beating one’s wife in case of her persistence in default, but it is to be done in the manner prescribed in the Hadith quoted above.
  2. It is the responsibility of the wife that during the absence of her husband, besides the guarding of her own chastity, and property of her husband, she should not let in anyone who is not liked by her husband, however closely related that person be to her.
  3. It is the responsibility of the husband to provide, according to his means, good food and clothes to his wife.

And Allah Knows Best!

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