Be kind to all relatives
A man said to the Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that.”
As we stated previously maintaining the ties of kinships are not just relationships based on just returning favours and giving like in return for like (e.g. visit for a visit or gift for a gift), and not taking the initiative.
This is not what is meant by upholding the ties of kinship at all, and this is not what is required by Islam. This is merely responding in kind, it is not the higher degree which Islam urges us to reach which is to take the initiative and try and to uphold ties even when your relatives are trying to break them or have broken them already.
We also learn from the above Hadith that the ones who are abusive and insulting to their relatives who are trying to uphold the ties of kinships with them, “then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths” as the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) stated above.
Who could bear to put up with hot dust?
We seek refuge with Allah from cutting off the ties of kinship!
And Allah knows best!